Time to build the 6 ft cat tree. Or “Let’s see if this relationship will survive”


“He won’t read directions”

“We can’t do any home project together without wanting to rip each others hair out”

“He’s a control freak and wont let me help”

“She gets all the tools, and hardware mixed up.”

“She doesn’t know what a flat head is compared to a phillips head”

Does any of this sound vaguely familiar to you? If so you might be suffering from ~ Incompatible Home Improvement Syndrome.

It affects 1 in 3 couples, and has been known to tear apart relationships before they can even have a chance to get off the ground running.

“Hey hun, I found a great painting that would look fantastic in the hallway. Let’s put it up?” Does hearing that question send shivers down your spine? 

If so, let me assure you, your compatible mate to home improvement projects is out there and waiting for you to find them. Quite possibly in your nearest home improvement store.

All joking aside, if you think about how many times you and your partner have worked together building something, working on a home improvement project, cooking, etc. it probably hasn’t been without some flaws, and sometimes you realize that it’s just better to not do something together. It’s not a bad thing to do your own thing. You may not be interested in laying tile, he may not want to crack a few eggs for brownies, you may not want to get down and dirty with grout, and he may look at you with three heads when you say you want to make a souffle with him. Or vice a versa if he enjoys doing the cooking and you’d rather paint the back deck. Whatever it is you like to do, it’s often fun to at least try to do it with your partner.

Sometimes it doesn’t always work out for the best. You can get on each others nerves for the littlest thing.

That has been my luck in some of my relationships. Often times, because I am a little extra independent and will do the home improvement project as well as the souffle, we can end up butting heads. Everyone has a better way of doing something that they think is the best way to do it because they’ve done it millions of times before and sometimes (yes I’m singling out men here from my perspective) men don’t like it if women know how to do something that they believe they should be doing. Especially if the woman does it faster and presumably better than them.

I’ve been really lucky in the sense that David and I work really well together, either in the kitchen or in the project fix it area. We have our moments where I’d like a little extra space while mixing up something in the kitchen, or he would like me to hand him the allen wrench a little faster. Like before he asks for it he expects I’d already know he needs it and have it waiting for him lol. I also have moments where I think he should know when to hand me an egg for mixing up a cake, but we don’t always get what we want.


Last week, we had a lot cut out for us. We decided to tackle the project of the 6 ft cat tree for Lilo and Stitch to play and lounge on.

We almost bought one in Petco, but found this huge one online at Chewy.com at a really great price and it was larger than the one in the store.

What did we get ourselves into, we thought. Actually it wasn’t that bad.  25 some odd parts, screws, hoozywatsis, and about an hour later, we came out with a stronger sense of self. Or each other if you will.

It didn’t happen without a few little hiccups, let’s be frank, because at one point we thought we had an extra screw. It turned out to be the anchor for the wall if we chose to use it. We worked well together, until part 10 had to go into slot b, then it was all a mess…for a moment.


He expected that I knew he needed the allen wrench at that exact moment.

“Hello where’s the wrench?”

“Why, we don’t need it yet, I’ll get it when we get to screw 19.”

Expectation is the root of all evil… or a grumpy moment for some people. I turned around and pointed to the wrench…

“If you want it so bad, reach over and grab it!”

He perked up pretty quick, and made a joke out of it as usual with a grab of my bum and we were off to finish up our project.  But then Stitch decided she was making home of one of the cubbies, before we could get to it. Finally after some coaxing with the treats, she came out and let us finish up.

All in all we worked very well together, and that in and of  itself is a huge accomplishment in many relationships. The ability to work together on a project when both partners are strong, independent people that know what they’re doing. Hell we even read directions together. It was fun, and we made it fun. We didn’t make it a chore. Heck we painted the laundry/walk in closet room together a few months ago and even worked on taking apart the washer and dryer to spruce it up and replace one of the belts in the dryer.


So I think it’s safe to say it was a success, for us and the kitties. They seem to have settled into their new treehouse quite nicely if I do say so myself. Although Stitch seems to like that top perch wayyyy too much lol.



I can’t believe I just did that!

Well it’s not so earth shattering but seriously speaking, I can’t believe I just did that!

Never in my 40(1) years have I ever done that. Well maybe that one time when I was 3 and I didn’t know any better. Or is it that now I’ve finally done what everyone else has done all these years?

It’s disgusting, or at least it’s always been disgusting in my eyes. I mean how could anyone do that. It’s just gross. It’s dirty, and it really can’t be good for you. Or can it?

I have no clue, but at 8:40 am this morning, as I sat at the kitchen table with my cup of tea, looking out the big picture window out Dave’s back yard. I did it. And he saw me too. Oh the horror, the shame, the just ewewwwwness of it all.

I can’t believe I just did that!

My bagel fell to the floor, face down, cream cheese on the tile floor.

I looked at Dave, then quickly to the floor where I just KNEW it was laying helpless, face down on those tiles. The tiles I haven’t mopped in a few weeks, but at least have swept daily. Those tiles the cats walk all over daily, the kids walk all over when they are here, and we walk all over all day every day. Yep my cream cheese covered piece of bagel just lay there on the floor.

Ahhhh Hell no, I’m not wasting it. I’m not throwing it away. Not when I just spent $7.58 on a 4 ~FOUR~ pack of mini (half the size of a Real bagel) gluten free bagels. Of which there were only 2 remaining after today’s debacle. No way was I not going to finish eating it. Plus I was starving.

There was little time to make anything else, hence the whole reason I dropped the piece in the first place. Dave needed to get to work, and with construction on the nearby major roadway, he needed to be out of the house no later than, you guessed it…8:45 am. I had a mere 5 minutes remaining, not nearly enough time to make another bagel. You’re probably wondering why that’s not enough time. First you have to defrost the bagel. Package says 30 seconds, but it takes a full 1 minute to defrost it. Then it has to cool off enough to handle it so you can slice it. Once it’s sliced, you place it in the toaster to toast up a little. That takes at least another 2 minutes to get the texture and color I like on my bagel. Leaving 2 minutes if that to cream cheese it up and eat away. Not nearly enough time, as I like to enjoy my food not scarf it down in record time.

So I did what I thought I’d never do. I quickly bent down, scooped up the bagel piece, placed it on my plate and gave it a once over. Not seeing anything particular, although it was an everything bagel so I might have missed something, I decided the best thing to do was to just wipe of the cream cheese and add some more.

Dave looked at me, with this crooked little smile on his face and mumbled a low giggle. I just looked back at him and popped that piece of bagel in my mouth and took a bite. His smile grew and I then did what any awesome girlfriend does….

I shared my 5 second rule cream cheese bagel piece with him, and he enjoyed every bite!!

He did manage to ask me what happened. But was more interested in why or how I even decided to eat it after it had fallen to the floor. I am such a germaphobe. Or at least I’m always cleaning my hands and wiping the counters, not so much sterilizing things per say I don’t go overboard but he laughs at me.

imageExplaining to him, that first I don’t like wasting food, like the horrible Hawaiian Chicken with Catalina Dressing we tried to make last night that looked like hot pink Pepto Bismol. Secondly, after spending that much money on 4 freaking bagels I was NOT going to let it go to waste. And last but not least, I was freaking STARVING this morning. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve been doing my walking more lately and getting my ass out there, but I was hungry and didn’t have time to make another one, and I didn’t want anything else either.

I still can’t believe I did that. But I ate it, and loved every bit of it. 😉




My Mom Loves Meghan Trainor’s NO song

Thanks Megan TrainorHeading out to my doctor’s appointment the other day and my mom was my co pilot. I haven’t seen much of her lately, it’s sad but true, I’ve been neglecting quality time with her and I miss it terribly. Although she does get on my nerves as all wonderful mothers do 😉 yesterday was like any other day with her. Except we were having a disagreement over the freaking radio of all things.

When I go to the doctor, especially the gynecologist I need to destress and make sure my blood pressure is under control. I don’t know why but it goes higher when I get there. I love my doctor he is really great, I think it’s just being there kinda thing, I mean think about it no one really likes going to the gyno. Right? lol.

As we’re mosying along listening to the radio, catching up with each other over our cups of coffee, I’m channel surfing on the radio. I hate every song that’s playing, it’s irritating the fuck out of me, if it’s not some old school rap or Whitney Houston song that’s blasting, it’s some funky country tune and it’s all like nails on a chalkboard to me.

Then pops Meghan Trainor’s “NO” song and I give it a second or two and hit the search function. Not realizing Mom is singing along to Meghan! WTF

My name is no
My sign is no
My number is no

Yes she’s singing along and all of a sudden I snap out of my trance and glance at her and start laughing.

“Seriously, Mom are you singing along, and you know the lyrics?”
“Yes, it’s a catchy song. I hear it all the time on WBLI, and well it reminds me of my younger days when I was single and would go out to the Hampton’s and party with my friends”
“Really, how so?”
“Well it’s a meat market out there, as it is almost any club or bar you’d go to. But like the song says…

Thank you, I don’t wanna dance
If I want a man, then I’ll get a man
(Paraphrasing because these aren’t the exact lyrics)

“Today’s day and age isn’t any different from it was back in the 70’s, people are the same the years have just changed. But this song is a good one, she’s got a good point. Priorities, and knowing what you want and going after it. It’s a catchy tune”

As she finishes her sentence the song which had mellowed out in the background automatically seemed to get louder…

My name is no
My sign is no
My number is no

She was singing along again and trails off.

“Oh boy it even reminds me of your father. At the time, I was dating a Nuclear Physicist, and working at the Adult/Nursing Home. There was a Christmas party and I had been told by the ladies in food services that he really liked me. I had absolutely no interest in him and told him to leave me alone. At the Christmas party I brought the guy I was dating and your father had the balls to come up to me and ask me to dance. The nerve of him.”

“Apparently you said yes, Mom.”

“Like the song says…NO. I told him I was with someone and I couldn’t dance with him. He wasn’t too happy, and that led to him pursuing me.”

“And here we are 41 years later…”

My Name is no
My sign is no
My number is no

Perfect timing and the song kicks in again, we both laugh and giggle and I tell her about one of the other songs Meghan Trainor wrote and how I blogged about it.

“Oh God are you gonna blog about me now, would you really do that to your, Mother? Talking about how love is blind and all that jazz. How I went for the Hippy with the long hair and ripped jeans, and left the Nuclear Physisist? Well one wonderful thing happened from it all, and I wouldn’t change it. If I had the chance to do it all over again I would. I got you from it so that’s like hitting the jackpot” She says with a smile and a glimmer in her eyes.

Yes Mom I will, and I did, because I love you. You have shown me year after year and day after day that no matter what is happening in our lives, a little musical interlude always does the soul good. Even if it’s some catchy tune by Meghan Trainor. Especially if her music can spark a memory of yours and we can share in that memory.

Thanks Meghan Trainor. I never thought I’d say those words before.

#AtoZChallenge H is for: Hippo…





Yeah, try saying that one fast.

Hippo poto monstroses quippedalio phobia ?



Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia: nope it’s not the fear of Hippos as one would think buy that lovely name.


A to Z Challenge, G is for ~ Gluten Free

Today we’re bringing you a Flashback Friday/AtoZChallenge post for the letter G.

G is for Gluten Free!

It’s a topic near and dear to my heart, since I’ve been Gluten Free for a little over 4 years now due to Gluten Intolerance. Please take a moment to read the post, as the information in it is just as relevant today as it was last year. Happy A to Z~ing!

Random Musings And Wanderlust

Gluten Free living, because of health reasons and not a fad diet. That’s what we’re gonna talk about today kids.

Well a little bit,(I do try to keep the A~Z posts short) and  because Gluten Free in this sense, is very serious business. For some people, those with Celiac Disease especially, it is even more serious than it is for me. I suffer with Gluten Intolerance or Sensitivity. Had I been tested for Celiac Disease at the time I had my first full-blown reaction, things may have been different.

GLUTEN: is a substance present in cereal grains, especially wheat, that is responsible for the elastic texture of dough. A mixture of two proteins, it causes illness in people with Celiac disease. It is also present in Rye, Barley, and triticale (a wheat-rye cross).

For me specifically, if I ingest gluten I start with an itch in my throat, a constant…

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I spy with my little eye: What’s that flapping in the wind?

I guess he used what most people make fun of about him to his advantage. Maybe? Maybe not is more like it. Because I see this as something I would reconsider. Is this the best his people could come up with? Really? Yes I did a double take, and was shaking my head at the fact someone was advertising it. One I don’t like bumper stickers. Period. Two, this is a stupid looking logo for a Presidential candidate. All that hair of his flapping in the wind. What is that the winds of change? No comment needed!